1. A defense mechanism that allows people who aren't comfortable being openly aggressive get what they want under the guise of still trying to please others. They want their way, but they also want everyone to still like them.
2. A dysfunctional defense mechanism for the powerless. It's payback from someone who wants to appear like an innocent victim. It always has a vicious edge but is done to appear innocent or helpless.
This week I received an egregiously passive aggressive email and in keeping with that theme, I'm briefly alluding to that drama here on B.A.A. While I'm not going to share the actual email and the absurdity contained within, I will share something even better - this site.
Do you find passive aggression to be annoying, or do you prefer it to full-on confrontation? I am often perceived as passive aggressive and I blame it on the fact that I'm so much better at writing than arguing.
The things is, when I have the time to gather my thoughts into a cohesive and unemotional missive, then I feel much better about working out tricky issues. When I talk out a problem in person, I tend to get huffy and overworked and sometimes I even slam doors. Just ask my mom. =)
Anyhow, enjoy the site! These types of notes are so much funnier when they're not directed at you.